Sunday, June 7, 2015

Totally Un-Correct


 

 

There’s a few things that that I know are considered “politically correct” yet leave me with a feeling of unease.  I may be on the totally wrong track, so I hope my readers will help me reason it out.

1.        It’s prom season everywhere.  The recent trend is for groups who may be usually left out of this rite of passage get their revenge by having their own proms.  Separate but equal?  There are black proms, white proms, and gay proms.  Today I read about a prom for the autistic students/siblings in a particular school.  The non-autistic students put it together and made it into an all-out project, taking the opportunity to organize pre-prom teaching sessions for learning all the social graces.  By all accounts, a good time was had by all.  So what’s the problem?  Does anyone else see a “separate but equal” trend for diversity? 

Imagine you are the autistic teen; your wish has been answered.  You are dressed up, there is music, dancing, and surrounded by the cool kids and the pretty girls.  And they are dancing with you!  Does this change anything?  Will those kids go on a date with you?  Invite you to their next party?  Hangout in the summer?  I’m guessing not.  I’m further guessing that high school will always be divided into groups and one glorious night is not going to change that.

 

2.       I somehow just became aware that parents and adults in general have taken ownership of the phrase “Good job!” to praise children for virtually everything they do.  At face value, this is good, right?  Positive parenting, fostering self-esteem, yada yada yada.  I’ve heard it used for putting up toys, eating one’s meal, pooping in the potty, walking—well, virtually everything.  I was probably made a neurotic mess by my parents, but I don’t remember getting praise for bodily functions or necessary chores.  I never doubted that they thought I was special, but I sometimes wonder about the ego inflation currently being pumped continually into the small children of today.  Will it be a shock when they enter the real world and learn that not everyone thinks everything they do is a “good job?” 

 

3.       Last, and probably least:  I am all about gender equality and it's high time anyone who wants to get married be allowed to do it legally.  Also, people should be allowed to decide what sex they want to be.  No argument from me.  I’m just asking for a little patience with old folks like me.  It still takes me a few minutes to get that a man can have a husband and a woman can have a wife.  Also, that you now have to address someone who has a penis as “she”.    Just one more sentence as a lead-in (e.g., Judy is married to a woman or Jane used to be a man called Jack).  Is that too much to ask?

 

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